Welcome back! This may not be that exciting for all of you and you do not have to read this! I want to tell these stories in detail to my family and Karen and people who were really interested in my trip. Please visit www.remembernhu.org to find out a little more about where these girls came from. Won't be posting any pictures of them here. I will have a lot of pictures in a private album on my facebook. If you are lucky enough to not be blocked, congratulations! haha
If you know anything at all, you know I just went back to Cambodia to visit the most precious little girls. After two years of promising to return and telling everyone around me how much I love them/Cambodia and that I would go back soon, I was finally doing it. I was told the girls did not know I was coming and I was so excited to see their reactions! Turns out they knew, but that didn't make it any less exciting :-)
My final flight that would take me to them was delayed about 2 hours which was a super bummer. I knew everyone would be sleeping and I could only hope the tuk tuk driver Laurie had lined up for me would still be waiting! Thankfully, he was and he was really nice about it. He brought along his son and nephew who were pretty cute. I was WAY beyond excited on the way to the new home. It was raining and I was
cold. Weird. I had to keep looking around me to make sure I was actually in Cambodia!
We rolled up to a gate and he called the housemother. I was so impressed with the beautiful new home! The housemother's really nice daughter led me up to the rooms upstairs where everyone was sleeping and I could not believe I was actually there. I was even more happy when she started going up to all the beds looking for Kieu and calling her name! Some of the girls started waking up and one girl looked at me and said, "Erica?" I started to feel terrible...I didn't recognize her! I knew ALL my girls! How could I not remember one?! Then I saw that she was new and had been expecting me. Ah, they all knew I was coming! No problem! Where's my daughter?! They all pointed us to a side room and as I walked in, a very sleepy, very TALL Kieu gave me the hug I had been aching for! I definitely teared up:-) "Mom, I miss you!" she kept saying. I settled in a bit and we talked as I handed a few of the suitcase of gifts I had brought! Then some of the other girls woke up and came to say hello. Nhung, with even better English if that's possible! So tall! I couldn't believe it! The new girl came to hang out. I liked her immediately. I started asking if all the girls were still here. Siphat? Pha Ta? Yep, yep, most of them are still here, they told me. *Phew* . Then Siphat walks in and was just as beautiful as ever! I really wished Karen was with me then (Siphat is Karen's daughter, for those who don't know!). Abby and Yao came in a bit later and I was so impressed with Yao's English! She came to the Haven of Hope only 5 days before we left last time. The girls were so much fun and we stayed up a while. Then they asked, "You go to church tomorrow?" "What time?" "7." Oh my gosh. It was already probably 3am or later and going to a church where I don't understand anything they're saying is hard enough! I did end up having to leave early! We went at 8 and they kept telling me it would be over around 11 or maybe later. I was just way too exhausted and a couple of the girls and I walked home so I could nap.
Ah, don't worry! I won't tell every detail of the week! Here are a few thoughts/stories.
There were a lot of new girls. The home is now a mix of Vietnamese and Cambodian which is kind of a breakthrough because of the new Cambodian housemother. Kieu was super proud to introduce her mom! Some of the older girls who were only around me when Kieu was around kept calling me mom. I'm pretty sure they thought that was my name haha
I was really stupid and did not bring any bug repellent with me. The mosquitoes REALLY enjoyed eating me alive. It became painful and I finally went to the shop close to the house to get the only small package of Off that they had. Later, Kieu and a few other girls went and bought a bunch of the little packets for me somewhere else! They didn't really understand that it was to keep them away, they thought it was more to soothe the itching so they kept just applying the Off for me but I didn't complain!
On Monday, I went to the salon to see those girls. I was pretty sad to hear there were only 4 girls working there now. When it opened, there were 9. When I got there I found 2 of the 4 working there now were not even of the 9 original girls! I was happy to see them though cause I thought they just weren't at the home anymore. The salon also changed locations and some of Nhu's family helps out. I was just glad to see Nhu, big Kieu, Lynn and Chia (who I thought was one of the old girls, Nun, for the longest time! Couldn't believe Chia could be so grown up!). A bunch of the girls came with me and hung out/fell asleep at the salon! It was pretty cute. Pha Ta was all curled up in one of the chairs sleeping away. We went about 9 or 10 and Nhu had to leave for a bit to run some errands or something. I had Chia do my nails while I waited. Told her to surprise me and I ended up with all different color nails! They're pretty great though:-) I told Nhu I wanted her to cut and dye my hair so we sent most of the little girls home since it was gonna take a long (very long) time. I ate lunch with Nhu and a friend of hers and unfortunately that's the most time I was able to spend with Nhu! I pretty much let them pick out my hair color and style and was a little shocked how short Nhu cut it, but I like it! Lynn did most of the work dying my hair. She gave awesome head and shoulder massages too. We all watched part of a hilarious Cambodian zombie movie while waiting for Vong, the faithful tuk tuk driver, to pick us up. Everyone in the home had been looking forward to tonight...I was taking them all out for ice cream:-)
We all enjoyed our time, wreaking havoc on Swensons! I pulled out my visa card to pay and what do they tell me? "We don't take visa." Who doesn't take visa?! I've used this very card in Cambodia before so it's not the whole country. Why wouldn't you take visa? It would have been really funny but I was freakin out thinking I took all these people out and am NOT gonna be able to pay!! Ha! (If Tiff, Lori or Saritha is reading, this may remind you of a time in New York...hahaha) It all worked out fine though.
I decided I wanted to spend a few hours just by myself at a pool to read and relax on Tuesday. Now, I love these girls with my whole heart but I had not had a single second by myself since I arrived! Even when I showered, they would stand outside the door and sing or just wait! So I got a cheap hotel room for a few hours and slept/read by the pool. Stupid move #264986 by Erica Jane: I didn't bring/buy/wear any sunscreen. I knew exactly what would happen...lobster redness! Didn't matter though, I didn't wanna wear 50 spf and risk still being white after the day:-) I only stayed by the pool for 2 hours (even borrowing some sunscreen when I felt my skin starting to boil!) then ate an slept for the rest of the time. I was bright red. I knew this would be the most painful sunburn because of how much the girls hang all over me and would be accidentally/purposely rubbing and scratching the burns! Everybody kept asking if I liked being so red cause I had explained that a lot of westerners like to be tan and that's why I was going. Haha definitely NOT beautiful. **Please refer to next blog post for moto ride story which happened at this point in the week:-)**
Pha Ta was attached (literally attached) to me the whole time. I was relieved, because by the time I left last time she wasn't really that interested! Karen, she still has that attitude!!
Went to the market and bought a TON of rambutan, longon and mangosteen which I had missed almost as much as I missed the girls! haha It was all just as delicious as I remembered and I only wish I would have eaten more mangosteen! Actually, after my very first meal at the home, the sweet cook lady brought out a huge bowl of rambutan. Oh man. It was like she knew...
I mostly just played and hung out. It wasn't nearly as hot as it was last time and I think it's just because there was no yard at the old home so we were inside the whole time and it was so stuffy! This place has a yard and little patio so we were outside with the breeze and the flies...oh so many flies.
I wanted to get the salon girls to come over my last night so I could see them and say goodbye to everyone at the same time! Nhung, Kieu and I went to the internet cafe to charge my camera and iphone (and skyped my mom because Kieu wanted to meet "grandmother" :-), then a ran a few errands and finally went to the bakery to get a cake and some treats for us. When we got back to the house, Yao was doing all the girls' makeup! It was hilarious to see the real little ones with all their makeup. I decided to let them do mine which I realized halfway through was a BAD idea. This was my last night and I knew it was gonna end in tears and now would also end with black running down everyone's face! Could be nice to have some comic relief though!
Sure enough, the tears started to pour and when Kieu looked up at me I couldn't help but laugh! We watched some Korean TV show dubbed into Khmer then went upstairs to say goodbye/cry/try and sleep! I walked into the room to see Kieu cryin her little eyes out and Thao taking pictures of her hahaha. So mean but kinda funny. I thought she was mad at them for it until she told me later, "Mom, Thao take picture me cry. You show grandmother." haha!
Some of them wanted me to wake them up at 5 before I left and some wouldn't let me sleep for a while! We spent some more quality time together and girls kept coming in with random gifts for me. They are all so sweet and have generous, loving hearts. Leaving them is always so hard.
4am came way too fast and I took the coldest shower of my life ha. I couldn't believe how many times I had been cold this week...in Cambodia! Not supposed to happen! Woke some girls up and we waited together downstairs. I just could not believe the week had flown by so quickly. I was glad so many people were awake to see me off though! We ate some ramen together and my heart dropped when my tuk tuk arrived. Laurie told/reminded me before I came that it's better to cry after you leave. The last time was a disaster! Siphat even threw up from crying so hard!! I had never ever cried that much in my life. I mean, everyone was just wailing. It was bad. So I wanted it to be better this time. Kieu was crying pretty hard and I couldn't help but cry a little with her! I hopped in my sweet ride and told them once again that I would see them again, a promise!
As soon as the last girl was out of site, I lost it. I was glad Sopath didn't have mirrors so I could weep in peace! Of course, then I cried again in the airport at a coffee place haha.
Traveled for about 30 hours total (with many adventures during that time!) only to arrive at work for my 8 hour day. I was tired, not feeling great and not stoked to have to work. I was early and the Korean teachers were having a meeting and laughed at my sunburn and how tired I was/looked!
But then the best little voice, "ERIIICAA TEACHER!" And Paul ran right up for the biggest hug ever.
I was sad to leave Cambodia but so glad this is what I came back to:-)